Friday, April 27, 2012

Love it

Nothing major - nothing earth shattering to report, but what happened last night was great!

Woke up in the morning and took a shower.  Unfortunately, a very luke warm shower.  Put the hot water knob all the way on, but it never got hot.  When I got out, I warned her about taking a shower and went to make sure the water heater hadn't sprung a leak at night.  It looked fine at my quick look, but I had to go to work.

Texted her about whether there was hot water later in the day and she said there wasn't.  She claimed that there was nothing she knew about that would have caused the problem.

When I got home we talked for a long time (had to go have dinner with my mother - my wife was at sports games with kids etc) so it was rather late.  I was still in my suit.  As we were talking about the day, I asked about the water heater again and she had no idea.  So I went out to the heater and looked at it again.  Checked the gas lines, the water, and finally checked the pilot light.  It was off.  That was weird, but she explained that she turned the heater off that day while I was out.  I re-lit the pilot light and got it working again.  I was still confused about the whole thing.

While in the garage, she mentioned her bike seat was not staying put and needed to be fixed, so I fixed it.

Later that night, she said, "you know, the other day I cleaned out the garage with one of those blowers, I must have blown out the pilot light."  She laughed and then said something like "your life would be so boring without me."  I laughed and immediately agreed with her.

Even later that night, as soon as we got in bed, without saying anything, rolled on top of me and starting kissing me.  Straddling me, she eventually started grinding on me, and once I was hard, took my underwear off, took her own underwear off, guided me in, and rode me till she came.  Of course, I came before she did, but she never stopped until she was finished.

She has hardly ever done that in our marriage or sex life.  That was definitely new.  And absolutely fabulous!

In fact, all of the interactions were fabulous that day.  I'm one lucky sob.

Wednesday, April 25, 2012

Click on the link to read this article.

If I failed to properly link it, or you just haven't read it, here are the essential facts: The website (which controls many many sites - but ones you have heard of are "men in pain," "divine bitches," "whipped ass," "TS Seduction," and many other BDSM type porn) is located in San Francisco. By "located in San Francisco" I mean that all of this porn is actually produced in a building called "The Armory" in S.F.

This is a very old building that has a long and interesting history in S.F. Only recently has portions of it been used for porn production. offers tours of the building, which give an actual history of the building that has been used for other purposes, but also gives tours of the porn production floors. According to Yelp reviews, it is very rare that the tour sees any actual porn - mainly just props etc.

Anyway, Groupon offers discounts on a wide variety of products, goods, services, etc. They apparently offered a discount on the tours offered by

But now, some "anti-obscenity" group is urging people to boycott Groupon for selling that tour offer. Here's the thing I don't understand - and probably never will - even if you personally do not like porn and you think things like BDSM and TS are "morally reprehensible", stop trying to tell me what the hell to do with my time and money.

I don't go and tell those people that they should spend less time watching stupid, boring, banal TV and hiking more, even if I believe that is a better way to spend time.

On the other hand - they are just telling "their own members", meaning members of their Morality in Media group members, to boycott Groupon. That's fine. They should spend their time informing people about Groupon's practices, and's practices, so that their own like minded members can decide on their own whether they wish to continue to subscribe to Groupon.

Meanwhile, the owner, Peter Acworth is quoted as saying: Acworth added that the tour also “helps fulfill our mission of demystifying and celebrating” consensual bondage sex, which regards as “a positive, authentic expression of human sexuality.”

Couldn't agree more.

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

Mmmm, books

Have to post this pic. So sexy.

Friday, April 13, 2012

Notice of Discipline (Spanked by My Lady)

I've noticed that the "Notice of Discipline" has been shooting through the tumblr world out there. I'm referring to

Everyone is re-blogging it, and I'm a little distressed that no one is giving any credit to the great blog called Spanked by My Lady (

The person who runs that site CREATED that Notice of Discipline and for him to not get any credit is not nice. Te person who runs that blog is a gentleman, intelligent, and generous. And that blog is simply very good. It is well written and interesting.

Please give credit where credit is due.

Thursday, April 12, 2012


It's called Ciaté Caviar Manicure™ - (doesn't actually go on the lips!) Sooooooooo want to use that on her, but just can't ever see her wanting it.

Monday, April 9, 2012


Would hate to see the chastity device that key goes to!

Thursday, April 5, 2012

Sad.......but good.

Some things have happened in my life recently that have been very sad. Nothing to do with my relationship with my wife, but some seriously difficult things.

The good thing, however, is that she's been extremely supportive, helpful and loving. As I go through this, my service efforts have waned. I have not been able to clean as much as previously done, I have not been able to do the little things for her, I have not been as attentive in doing in her nails, making her coffee in the morning, or any of the other things I have been previously trying to do for her.

And while that in and of itself is sad, I think it has revealed some things to her. For the longest time, when discussing the idea of being "submissive" to her, I have been trying to explain that it's not some sniveling worm, on his hands and knees, begging his mistress for the right to lick her boots. I have been trying to explain the loving aspects of a FLR/WLM, the service and the fact that it is not some outward thing that all people would recognize as some kinky game. I don't know that she has ever really understood that, or what it meant in practical terms.

This unfortunate series of events have given her a better understanding, I think, of what our relationship has been moving towards, even if she hadn't previously consciously acknowledged it. While she is sensitive to my current situation, she has noticed those things waning, expressing herself verbally. It's that direct verbal acknowledgment that shows this is something she does crave. It's been expressed by her irrespective of me asking. It's validation that she actually likes it.

One particular exchange illustrated a portion of this. Our child was taking a bath, and this child hates having hair washed. My wife, a relative and I were upstairs and she turned to me and said "[My name] is going to wash [child's name] hair." My immediate response "No I'm not. I'll wash the dishes, but I'm not going to wash [child's name} hair." She immediately said "No?" with a sense of shock and frustration. Not anger. She didn't really like my "no" response and was kind of surprised by it. Her reaction wasn't one where, if this were a Femdom story, she'd say something like "you are saying 'no' to your Mistress," or "you'll get your discipline later for disobeying me" etc.

Instead, this was an immediate response by her which cemented in my own mind that she is adopting a more WLM even if she doesn't know it herself. The reason she reacted the way she did is because I don't talk to her like that. Nor do I generally say "no" to her when she tells me to do something. I made the decision around the time when I started this blog to not say "no" to her and have tried over the years to do things for her without her asking. Her reaction is more evidence to me that we are more in the WLM than I previously thought. And it makes me happy.

Of course, I still crave a more open and frequent acknowledgment from her. And there are many sexual things that I would love to engage in. But those pale in comparison to the happiness I felt by her reaction.

Thursday, March 22, 2012

Strap-on in library!

LOVE IT! Only way it could be better is if I could read the titles of the books.

(Taken from

Wednesday, March 21, 2012

More strap-on

These are two of my favorite (very short) clips. What I like is that it's not abusive in anyway and both women seem to be enjoying themselves. Of course, these are still male-centric, so not entirely my view, but still extremely hot.

(cut and paste. From a great tumblr.)

Monday, March 19, 2012


It's never happen for me, but what I would give to have her use one of these!

Friday, March 9, 2012


Two posts in a day? Just too many things to comment on.

“Female authority is still associated with childhood, and the last time a lot of powerful guys saw a powerful woman they were eight, and they feel regressed to childhood by a powerful woman in a way that they don’t feel with a man.”

- Gloria Steinem, on why there aren’t more women in power. (via cheatsheet)

Well, when I read this, I'll take it as a compliment! Because the way I interpret that comment by her, the guys who embrace female authority are actually more manly than the men she describes. They are evolved. They are not threatened. They have grown up from being a child.

Way Off Topic

Everyone here knows what my blog is about, but this post is decidedly different. I hesitate to even post it.

I just have to say, things like this piss me off. And they piss me off because ............ the person who wrote this has failed to understand the meaning behind the words he/she believes in.

So, guess what. I DO believe there is a God. I do belong to a particular religion.

But you know what else I believe in? What I believe is 100% true?

"I believe in humanity working together to better the world, I believe that science is constantly expanding our knowledge of the universe, I believe in teaching children to never stop being curious, I believe in more than I don't."

Are you saying that Muslims don't believe in Science? Hindus don't want to teach children? Christians don't want to help people or better humanity? Here is the thing, if you are not a part of any particular religion, and all you know about them is what you see on TV, Jon Stewart, or read on the internet, you're going to have an extremely dim view of those religions. Try going to your local church - whatever denomination. Try meeting the people. Try seeing what, on a local level, is really going on there. You just might be enlightened. In fact, you just might learn that children are being taught to be curious, or that humanity is working together to better the world.

Oh, don't get me wrong. As with everything - there are really shitty people that are associated with it. No person and no organization is perfect. They make mistakes. They have people involved that suck. That doesn't mean that it outweighs the good.

But - finally - the person who wrote that picture is essentially saying that Atheists are the only ones who believe in the things written. By writing it that way, he's excluding people who believe in God. That's not very "humanity" working together.

While I may believe in God, I am extremely happy that there are people who DO NOT, because it makes the world a better place!!! Just like the fact that there are different races, different religions, different thoughts, different sexual orientations. Different everything makes the world wonderful.

So, to all you religious people out there - stop trying to force your beliefs on others. Stop showing disdain and judging people who do not believe the same as you. And guess what, for all you non-religious people out there - stop trying to force your beliefs on others. Stop showing disdain and judging people who do not believe the same as you.

Monday, March 5, 2012

Quest Still Goes On, Part 2

This is partly in response to MMS' and AO's comments to my first "Quest Goes On" post, but it deserves its own post because there is also an update.

I'll have to disagree with MMS that I'm pushing a FLR that is completely defined by me. Nor is explaining what is happening whining. I wasn't petulant, or complaining. I love her and want her to be happy.

The real question is, if you have a wife that would never come to the concept of a FLR by herself, but you desire it, how do you introduce her to the concept and get it going. This is not a new question - I've read about in many other people's much better blogs than mine.

Talking, as mentioned by AO is one way, but it's not like you can sit down one day, have a frank discussion about it, and then the next day BOOM, you're in a FLR and you are both happy. I've said all along that she would not come to the concept of a FLR on her own, so exposing it to her, and seeing if there is anything she likes, is not pushing. Instead, introducing her to things is a good way for her to find things she does like. There are a million things I'd love for her to do, but I'm not sitting there demanding that she do any of them.

And, I'd argue that saying to her either of the following things is equally bad:

"I want a FLR. Here is a list of things I want you to do from now on." or
"I want a FLR. Please figure out what you want me to do, what you're going to do to me and tell me."

You're either telling her what to do, or requiring her to do all of the work, without any clue what any of it means.

Besides, we are NOT in a FLR, nor have I ever even fully asked for one. She doesn't even know what the acronym FLR stands for, let alone the concept behind it. Meaning, she's not making her own FLR because she doesn't even know what that means or entails, on her terms or anyone else's.

On the other hand, she HAS started to realize more and more about who we are as a couple and understanding what makes us both happy. While we are not in an acknowledged FLR, we are in an acknowledged loving relationship, in which we both want each other to be happy. And, in connection with that, she’s doing things more and more for herself, but I think also for me.
One day last month when we were sitting at dinner, she said to my daughter "as soon as we're done with dinner, Dad will give us both pedicures." I loved her saying that because she had never even broached the subject with me before saying it. She never asked if I wanted to do that.

But more importantly, it showed that SHE wanted that. She wanted the pedicure. It showed that she enjoys receiving them from me and was willing to state that it was being done. It showed that she understood now, after I introduced it to her and talking about it to her, that it’s something she wants and all she had to do was ask/demand it. Previously, she would have never even asked for a pedicure, let alone just demanding that it be done, had I never introduced it to her in the first place and then kept telling her that "any time, anywhere" she wanted a pedicure, all she had to do is ask or tell me.

Coupled with that, we have had more discussions about me doing things for her. She has definitely noticed that I have been doing much more for her on my own and thoroughly appreciates it. I work a lot. I'm at work for a long time. I used to do what I could around the house, but in the last year or two, I have made a much more concerted effort to take the extra step and do more. That includes everything from cleaning things up here and there, to doing major cleaning, to fixing things around the house I know she wants done etc. It also includes being more in tune with her feelings - making sure to try to help on anything that is going on that is bothering her, take on more tasks if she is having problems and other things.

She recently went on a trip with several other moms (that I’m friends with too). I planned the whole thing for her, and even while they were out there, she would text me questions when they weren’t sure what to do next, or to get recommendations on dinner or whatever and I helped them out tremendously. When she came back, she stated that all of her friends were very impressed with how much I helped them. They even talked about how their husbands never notice anything about how they dress and yet they knew how often I noticed those things, even on them. I could tell that when she was telling me this, she was happy with me and happy that her friends were “jealous” of her.

Some time after that trip on night, we started to make love, when I began to try to take off her underwear, and she said “no, no, tonight I want it to be about you.” Before I could say anything, she actually stopped, looked at me and said “I know you’re going to say that you get more pleasure in giving me pleasure, but tonight I’m going to bring you off.” (That’s a paraphrase – she said it more eloquently!) Anyway, her stating that shows that she is understanding of the situation and is still doing what she wants! She knew that she could sit back and let me bring her to an orgasm, but that wasn’t what she wanted to do. She wanted to bring me off.

Another example of how I think we are in a really good place is a story about laundry. I was at work and she was having a stressful day with her work and the kids. Lots of stuff happening and then she had to go out as soon as I got home for one of her volunteer positions. I purposefully texted her “please let me know if there is anything that you want/need me to do while you’re gone.” Her response was “put away the laundry. Grrrrrr!” Not only did I put the laundry away, but also cleaned up the entire house. She was very happy the next day.

I'm sure there are people who will read this and tell me that I'm doing it wrong, that I'm not a true sub because I haven't told her to stop doing all chores, that I'm not on an allowance or whatever. But that lifestyle that many other subs is simply never ever going to happen because a) she doesn't want it; and b) it's impossible for me to do it.

All I know is that I’m happy and she’s happy. Are there more things that I would love to do? Absolutely. Would I be happier if we began doing them? I would think so. But I’m very happy to be moving along the way we are.

(This post is long enough. I haven't even gotten to the talk we had where the result is that I'm in a more defined chastity. No, I'm not in a device. But she do something that was wonderful!)

Friday, March 2, 2012


This really works.

Go to google maps and "get directions.

In "A" (your starting point), type in "The Shire"
In "B" (your ending point), type in "Mordor."

Then click the little man icon for walking.

Wednesday, February 29, 2012

R.I.P. Buck Compton

A true American hero. Not just for WWII, but his time after.

Saturday, February 18, 2012

Quest Still Goes On

My quest for an acknowledged WLM still falters, but that doesn't mean she's against the idea. Of course, it doesn't mean she wants it either.

All I can say is that she's either not completely ready for it on her own terms, or she is just moving along on her own terms, in her own way, but not communicating that desire to me. I'm sure there are other alternatives too. Maybe she does want to do it, but has no idea how to do it. Maybe she doesn't know which way she wants, or which way to go. She's got the right to do what she wants with it, but I would much rather have specific information from her so we can move one way or the other.

Otherwise, I'm left with stealth submission, something that is not particularly satisfying, and potentially dangerous. At the core of all of this - I want her to be happy and if she doesn't want a WLM, or my submission, then I don't want to do it. I want what she wants - what will make her happy.

That may sound easy, but it is complicated. All I can go on is what she's told me on certain topics. When I've asked her in the past whether she has any fantasies, anything she truly loves to do, anything she doesn't like, or anything she wants to do, she says she's perfectly happy. Yes, that sounds great. People are not, however, always black and white. They may need to be pushed. They may need to be convinced. They may need to shown the way. She may be afraid, and secretly wishing inside that I assist her. I'm left with wondering whether I take her word for it, or try things to see how she reacts.

I don't want to do things for her that she is only accepting because she is, in reality, doing them for me! That may sound odd, but what if the only reason she lets me do her toes for her is because she knows I like it, not because she likes it! I'd rather that not be the case.

Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Mmmm - Martini

Been a long day. Brutal week. This makes me want a martini.

Well, and sex. But I'll start with the martini.

Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Love it

What do I love? I love the saggy breasts. I love that she's clearly in a home and it's not a porn shoot. I love the stretch marks. I love that smile on her face. I love that tousled hair. I love the fact that, from what I can see, I have the same strap-on. I love that she allowed the photo to be taken.

Here's the thing - this woman is sexy because of all of those things. Attitude, self-confidence, comfortable in her own skin.

Monday, February 13, 2012

Perpetual Re-Blog

Any nudity in a library is hot, so you'll get them when I see them.

This is from

Thursday, February 9, 2012

Modern Family Did it Again

I've mentioned the Modern Family TV show before, specifically as it had the cuckolding tinged episode.

Well, last night's episode included another little issue of a "cheating spouse", but but also some cross-dressing. For a very good description of the cross-dressing aspect, read "" Stana did a great summary and all I'd be doing is cutting and pasting hers if I tried to summarize it. (As Stana pointed out, you can watch the full episode here: Anyway, the "sister dressed me" scenario is a typical fantasy for many cross-dressers, and I'm sure having two sisters willing and wanting to dress him up hit home to many viewers. What was most refreshing was the acceptance by the parents upon returning home. It's one thing to be accepted by siblings, but all too often the child is shunned by the parents.

The other sub-plot was a cheating spouse. It wasn't really cuckolding like addressed before, but it did involve another person hitting on the guy's wife in front him. The husband and wife had a potential client for the husband's real estate business come over for dinner. During the dinner, there was a mention that the dining room table needed to be fixed, but the husband said he left his tools in his office. The wife felt during the dinner that the client was hitting on her, and upon leaving the house, the client kissed her on the lips. This did not bother the husband at all, instead he was focusing on whether the person would become a client.

The fact that the husband did not see and/or appreciate the kiss made the wife a little angry. The next day, the client came over to the wife's house, while the husband was away, to fix her dining room table. He had his shirt off. When the husband came home, he thought nothing of it, even though the client said "I just came over to give your wife the tool she needed." Again, this did not bother the husband in the least since the client said he would give the listing for the house to the husband. The wife was angry at the husband for not being mad that the client was hitting on her. Now, it wasn't like the wife wanted the guy to hit on her, or that she was enjoying his attentions, it was just bothersome to her that her husband was not upset.

The interesting part, though, was the end. They ultimately went to the client's house for dinner and there, it was clear that the guy was not hitting on the wife. The wife apologized to the husband, and then the wife visibly relaxed. At that point she realized he wasn't hitting on her and she began to enjoy his company. The client told a joke and the wife began laughing and it appeared now, to the husband, that she liked the guy. It was only then that the husband got angry, because he felt that the wife was "falling" for the other guy. It wasn't really that he felt she was falling for him, but he was jealous that she seemed to really enjoy this other guy.

I've actually never really understood why some men freak out if someone hits on their wife if the wife is not reciprocating. I know that back in my single days, there were several times when I out and started casually talking to a woman, only to have a boyfriend/husband show up and get all pissy at me, telling me she was taken etc. I guess I know why - they are insecure about the relationship, but still. Seems more disrespectful to the woman since you apparently don't trust her or her love.

Wednesday, February 8, 2012

Very True

Wish it were different, but it's not.

Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Hot, but not necessarily for me!

This post isn't about my situation. Cut and paste the link about and watch the video, then continuing reading.

This is a great video. The fact that it's solely on her face is great. And man, is she expressive! Love her reactions. Watching her face was joyous. She was thoroughly enjoying it, you could tell that he was hitting her right buttons, going at the right speed and the right angle. I'm guessing with all that, of course, but the looks on her face were telling that story to me at least.

But then, the way it ended left me wondering, not only about the participants, but also the purpose of taping it. Is this amateur, or pro? If it's pro, it makes more sense, but if it's amateur, it is curious. Why? Because the guy in the video is selfish, yet the camera focus was fully on her!

I mean, this guy is doing very well with her, but then video ends like most porn. Just when he was going fast and it looked like she was going to cum - was getting to that point - he pulls out!!! Leaving her high and dry! He then (though you don't see it) cums in her mouth. Then the video ends and she seems o.k. with it!

Hey - I'm sure there are millions of men, and even women too, who are perfectly happy with that scenario in their sex life, but what the hell. Why is it o.k. for her to not cum? That's just the type of sex that is not o.k. with me. Unless I was told not to, I could never have just stopped right then! I would have had to bring her off to her satisfaction. I would have felt incomplete otherwise.

The other thing that truly annoys me about these types of videos is that anonymity of the guys. Again, assuming it's amateur, then why is the woman's face plastered all over the internet to see, but the guy is not. Was the publishing of this video o.k'd by the woman? If not, that's bad enough. But why is it that in so many of the amateur videos I see, the guy is not visible. Hey, if you're going to have a woman do the things to you that are done on these videos, and it's going to be posted on the internet, be man enough to take ownership of it.

(Oh, and I have to mention - she has a great manicure! Perfectly done nails. They don't look fake either. I have to get better at giving manicures so my wife's nails can look that good.)

Sunday, January 29, 2012


Yesterday, we had to go to the mall to fix an item of mine that had broken. When we got there, a guy in his mid 20's was helping me, asking questions about what was wrong, when did it stop working, etc., and my wife was sitting next to me listening. Nothing out of the ordinary.

Ultimately, it ended up where the item could not be fixed. So, the guy started giving me the options of what I could do - since I had the warranty, I could get an exact replacement for free, but that would be the very old version. I could then get a newer version for a good amount of money, the newest version for more money, and then there were two more "newest versions" with extras that cost even more and more money.

So I was sitting there, looking at the 5 options and I immediately just looked at her and the following conversation took place:

Me, looking at her: "what do you think?"

Her: "He'll get the newest version," and she pointed out which of the newest ones to get.

Worker, looking at me: "O.k., if you get that, what about the case?"

Me, looking at her, not saying anything.

Her: "Why don't you go get one of the cases on the wall. You can't have my old case because it's too girly."

Worker, kind of laughing, looking at me again: "All right, when you get the case, we'll put it on. Now, what about the warranty" (and then he went on to explain all the warranty options.

Me, looking at her, not saying anything.

Her: "He'll get the warranty."

Worker, kind of laughing again, started to ring it up.

After finishing ringing it up, the Worker just started talking to her about payment etc., not dealing with me anymore. In the process, she said to me "Why don't you go look at the cases", so I left to do just that.

What's funny about the whole thing was that the Worker seemed to be getting a kick out of the exchange. But you know what? I was perfectly happy and not embarrassed at all. I trust her, she's intelligent, better at those kinds of decisions, and I was very happy that she was in charge of all of that. Is that WLM? Is that Femdom? In a way, I think not. It's just who we are. It's who we are together. There is no specific discussion we have had where we "agreed" that we start a WLM. This is our relationship as it has naturally progressed.

That's not to say that I wouldn't love more things to be done overtly on her part as part of a WLM. This morning we were actually showering together and she mentioned that she had shaved her legs yesterday and didn't want to shave them today. Instead of me saying anything, I simply grabbed the razor, had her sit on the bench, and started shaving her legs for her.

Her statement about not wanting to shave her legs was NOT her way of getting me to shave her legs. It had nothing to do with that. She just didn't want to shave her legs. I took it upon myself to do it and she was very appreciative.

I loved what happened in the shower. The exchange, like what occurred at the store, was silent between us. There was no "demand" or "order" by her. I would love if she did that, but even though she didn't, I was still extremely happy to shave her legs. I know she enjoyed it thoroughly too.

Would I have loved it if she did order me to shave her legs? Absolutely. Am I sitting her now thinking that I'm not fulfilled because she didn't order me to shave her legs? Nope.

I am sitting here simply wishing that we had more time to spend together so that we can have experiences like we did this weekend. Even if we are simply going to the mall and taking showers together!

Thursday, January 26, 2012

Christmas Shopping Story

There is a relatively new blog called Strict Julie Spanks located at and it's definitely something to read if you're interested in DD or WLM. She's an excellent writer. Very interesting posts, to say the least.

One of her posts, related to an impromptu panty shopping trip, reminded me of something that happened to me just last December, but not nearly as interesting or exciting as her story.

But ......... I was actually shopping for stocking stuffers for my wife, and since we both like it when I do her toes, I decided to get some new nail polish for her. There is a strip mall near my house, which has my barber shop, your typical Starbucks, grocery store, etc. It also has a beauty supply store. After getting my hair cut I figured I could I'd quickly pop into the store, grab some nail polish and head home.

Even though the nail polish WAS for my wife, it is still a little odd to be in a beauty supply store walking around looking at items that are absolutely 100% only for women. It's not like I was in CVS looking at wall of lotions or something, where you can pass it off as looking for something for a man. This store was completely all female items. Of course, I was the only man in the entire store.

As somewhat of a digression, I will never understand why they stock stores like this so oddly. Maybe I'm just thinking like a man, but since I was looking for nail polish, you'd think there would be one big wall with all of their nail polish. Nope. They're kinda spread out all of the place, I think grouped by maker or something. I mean, go down one aisle and you see some, the next aisle some more, and so on. It's rather maddening.

In this context, it made me walk around the store, rather aimlessly because I wan't familiar with where everything was located in the first place. I did feel like the other women in the store were looking at me like "what is this guy doing?" I finally found the OPI nail polish (which is her favorite) and began looking. As soon as that happened, an attractive woman in her 20's came up to me asking if I needed help, but I politely declined, stating that I was just looking at this nail polish. I wonder what she was thinking as she approached me and what she thought of my answer.

Anyway, I figured that was going to be the only awkward encounter (well, other than actually purchasing whatever items I picked.) But as I'm standing next to the wall looking at the OPI nail polish, I hear "[my name], what are doing in the beauty store?" I turn around and it's a woman who my wife and I are very good friends with. Her and her husband and my wife and I have been great friends for a long time. Now luckily for me, because I'm comfortable with her, and because I was truly there to get nail polish for my wife, I was able to explain what I was doing and why, which was a very logical explanation. She actually stated she was impressed and said it was sweet.

Her husband is a manly guy, who would never even buy her nail polish, let alone give her a pedicure like I do! Of course, I didn't tell my friend that I was buying new colors for my wife for me to apply. On the other hand, he and I give each other shit about everything, so I immediately knew I'd be hearing about this shopping trip from him some time soon.

I made my selection and proceeded to the checkout line. No one was in front, so I was immediately able to pay. This is always an awkward experience too. I always wonder whether the clerk is thinking that i'm buying it for myself or what. She asked me if had a frequent buyer card and whether I wanted anything else, which again felt odd. At that point I just wanted to get out of there.

Later on, after Christmas, I made sure to bring out that my wife did receive the nail polish as a stocking stuffer to avoid any thoughts that I was buying the polish for myself.

Not nearly the same thing as the Strict Julie story, but still felt awkward for me!

Tuesday, January 24, 2012

yes, yes, yes

Ah, I love this.

Why do I love this? Because she looks hot in those heels and skirt? Yes, she does, but that's not the reason. I love it because of her comment about how she looks.

It's because she's happy with who she is and what she looks like. Confident. And that hand on her hip? That's attitude - in a good way.

Yes, she is sexy because of her attitude and confidence. Grrrr.

Thursday, January 19, 2012


It doesn't exist!

Well, actually it does. I guess I can't conclusively state that. But unless at least two specific women in my life have "faked it", repeatedly, over many many years, and have lied about it's existence in their own bodies, then I'm pretty sure it exists.

I think in reality, there may be other things going on. Maybe some women aren't as in tune with their bodies. Maybe some just don't get any pleasure from that spot. It might akin to female ejaculation - some women can do it and some can't.

I just hope that the result of this study leads people to believe that a) if you have a g-spot, celebrate it; and b) if you don't get any pleasure from it - focus on other things! No need to fell bad or anything.

Tuesday, January 17, 2012


Well, yea - I agree that you should conserve energy by turning the lights off when you leave the room.

But this particular marketing/advertising doesn't exactly work for lots of us!

Wednesday, January 11, 2012

Vanilla Edge and Blondie

My thanks goes out to Vanilla Edge tumblr ( for posting these spot-on, hilarious, wonderful "Blondie" cartoons. I had never seen these before and they're great. (According to the Vanilla Edge tumblr, there is a new tumblr called that has a bunch.)

Growing up as a kid, I loved reading the comics. Even then, I thought Blondie was "hot" - well, as hot as a comic could be. Anyway, the combination of Blondie, male chastity and a submissive Dagwood is rather enjoyable.

An example is below:

(1/12/12: Editor's note - Wow, I'm embarrassed!!! I used "their" instead of the proper "they're" in this post and that is incredibly inexcusable. If my wife were into DD, I would definitely deserve corrections tonight. The error has been corrected.)

Tuesday, January 3, 2012

Some Sites That I Love

These are two of my favorite sites to visit to keep myself organized, efficient and helpful in performing tasks for my wife. They not only give great ideas on everything from cleaning to cooking, but they are also slick, informative and spot-on in the advice.

For example, the Cleanmama site gives you a free, downloadable sheet on what to do daily for January. It's a great starter to customize yourself.

The Domestic Servitude provides ideas that I would never have thought of in the first place.