My quest for an acknowledged WLM still falters, but that doesn't mean she's against the idea. Of course, it doesn't mean she wants it either.
All I can say is that she's either not completely ready for it on her own terms, or she is just moving along on her own terms, in her own way, but not communicating that desire to me. I'm sure there are other alternatives too. Maybe she does want to do it, but has no idea how to do it. Maybe she doesn't know which way she wants, or which way to go. She's got the right to do what she wants with it, but I would much rather have specific information from her so we can move one way or the other.
Otherwise, I'm left with stealth submission, something that is not particularly satisfying, and potentially dangerous. At the core of all of this - I want her to be happy and if she doesn't want a WLM, or my submission, then I don't want to do it. I want what she wants - what will make her happy.
That may sound easy, but it is complicated. All I can go on is what she's told me on certain topics. When I've asked her in the past whether she has any fantasies, anything she truly loves to do, anything she doesn't like, or anything she wants to do, she says she's perfectly happy. Yes, that sounds great. People are not, however, always black and white. They may need to be pushed. They may need to be convinced. They may need to shown the way. She may be afraid, and secretly wishing inside that I assist her. I'm left with wondering whether I take her word for it, or try things to see how she reacts.
I don't want to do things for her that she is only accepting because she is, in reality, doing them for me! That may sound odd, but what if the only reason she lets me do her toes for her is because she knows I like it, not because she likes it! I'd rather that not be the case.