Monday, October 31, 2011

Is She More Interested?

There have been some great things that give me hope for a future WLM, to whatever extent that might be. On the other hand, it could just be that she is enjoying my continued efforts to be in her service. Not only do I perform the tasks that she wants, but I also attempt to perform tasks that I know she will like, without being asked.

I have made coffee for her in the morning, before going to work so it will be ready when she wakes up.

I have put love notes where she will eventually find them.

I did extra work around the house (I already do a lot around the house)

And then other little things, like one night, as she was getting into bed, she said "damn, I forgot to get water for the night." Instead of saying anything, or making a big deal out of it, while I was getting ready for bed, I went downstairs, got water and brought it to her. She was very appreciative.

In addition, on her own, she began a little tease and denial game. One night, she began rubbing me in bed and then stopped, telling me that I would have to wait. We had a lot of fun for a couple of days, though it was not a long denial period. I thoroughly enjoyed it because it was all her idea - I had not brought up T&D for a long time.

One night she asked me if I would do her toenails. I happily agreed. As I set everything up, she turned on the tv, trying to find something to watch. She noticed that we had dvr'd a new "Private Practice", a show she loves, but I loath. She mentioned that she'd find something else to watch because she knew I disliked it. I immediately told her that she could watch it and, again, she was very appreciative.

In way, these are all very good things. I'm satisfying my own urges by being in her service as much as possible. She's definitely appreciative of the things I'm doing. The familiar refrain, however, from a male sub trying to get a vanilla wife to enjoy a WLM is the actual acknowledgment from her that she is the more dominate one in the relationship.

We have not discussed or agreed that ours will be a WLM. And while I fully agree that in a WLM, it should be about her and what she wants, I will still need to know that she is actually doing what she wants, as opposed to what she thinks I want. Or, she not thinking about it at all. Because if she is not even thinking about it, then it will a vicious cycle where I crave the WLM, but she is not actively engaging in that dynamic, causing some consternation on my part.

Now, my situation as it stands, however, is NOT one in which I am frustrated. I'm not frustrated because we have never agreed to have a WLM. This is more about how I believe we are progressing towards a WLM. Where we ultimately end up is still unknown, but I am happy that we are progressing.

Yes, she asked for me to do her nails instead of telling me that I was going to do them. Yes, technically I allowed her to watch Private Practice. Had I said "no, let's watch something else" she would have watched something else.

On the other hand, after many of these things, she said "you're too good to me." And that is something I hope to remind her of in the future when I believe she will be receptive to discussing an adoption of the WLM ideal.

Wednesday, October 26, 2011

Something New

So, I did something last night that I've never done before. I was super horny, and luckily so was she. We were on the couch, watcthing tv, basically cuddling together. She was on top, sort of to the side, and I had my arm around her waist.

I being nibbling on her ear and neck and we started kissing. This went for a long time (reminded me of highschool - on the couch kissing - fully clothed). One thing led to another and I reached my hand down to start taking off her pants, when she stopped me, telling it was the wrong time of the month.

Undeterred, I took off her shirt, spending ample time on her breasts and stomach. I continued then to her pants, which this time she didn't stop me. I'm not sure what she was thinking, but I had developed a plan.

I took the pants off, but left her panties on. I began kissing her inner thigh, her legs, her calves and going back and forth between each leg. Finally, I began my plan - I pulled the panties at the top together and then pulled up - encasing her lips tight in the panties, but giving me access to everything else. I licked up and down each side getting the edges of the lips, but nothing in the middle. After lots of that teasing, I pulled the tops of the panties down, exposing her clitoris, but not much else below. With the extensive foreplay, she was ready to explode. With just the clitoris exposed, it didn't take me long to bring her off.

A very enjoyable evening. A hell of a lot better than watching tv. I know she liked it!

Tuesday, October 25, 2011


Ooooh, Stewie and football. Two of my favorite things in one photo. Too bad these girls are distracting me.

Monday, October 24, 2011


Perfect picture. Well, I guess if she actually had a book in one of the hands it would be better, but damn. Love this one.

Friday, October 21, 2011

Reblog if.......

From I wonderful picture site for those sub-inclined.

Thursday, October 20, 2011

Light Hearted Stuff

Modern Family:
Anyone see the most recent "Modern Family" tv show? If you did, did you get a kick out of the subtle cuckolding aspect? Yes, this show is on normal, national broadcast tv, so they weren't going anywhere "naughty", and the joke was that it was all just a big misunderstanding (she goes out with her gay brother and she thinks the hot friend is also gay, so she's very open with him, but he turns out to be straight).

But for those of us aware of the cuckolding scene, they were rather obvious. As soon as her husband is gone, she gets all dolled up for a night on the town. She is flirty, has the guy take off her dress so she can try on new clothes, and buys a short red dress with him. The fact that she gets "found out" by the rest of the women in the neighborhood.

And really, if you know anything about the show and the characters in it, she is most definitely in charge in that marriage.

Breast Cancer.

Also, here is some funny, yet supremely important, information about breast cancer.

And even though TopKat really tried to help me, I'm not sure if I succeeded in providing the link, so you might have to cut and paste.

Monday, October 17, 2011

Going in Opposite Directions?

The url for this blog is "she's a wonderful wife." And it's true - she is. That url refers to her as a person, though. A whole person, not just anything sexual.

It's interesting - we were forced to be apart for about a month. September was pretty much a lost month for us. Without giving away too much, let's just say that the entire month of September, she was on her own, taking care of the kids. Because my job requires that from time to time, I'm supremely grateful and happy that she's such a strong woman that she can handle everything that goes along with those responsibilities. To be able to leave and know everything will be fine is great peace of mind.

It also forced us to "take a break" from anything sexual, let alone kinky. And this break has me re-evaluating the WLM, submission, and even tease & denial, where that is going for both of us, where it is going for her and for me.

She is not "wired" in the kink this way. This is more about her personality overall, rather than anything kinky. Actually, it's both. She's not kinky at heart, but also, the way in which she goes about her day does not lend itself to "planning" anything kinky. Let's put it this way: Kink can be a lot of work! If someone is naturally inclined for that, they usually spend lots of time thinking about it and/or getting ideas from reading websites. She is never going to do either of those things. And since she is not naturally inclined, the thought process of introducing something "kinky" never ever crosses her mind.

I used to think that she considered the options, but just chose not do it. But now I'm more convinced that the thought never crosses her mind, unless I've put it there. I have not brought up denial in a while and the last couple of times that we've engaged in love, there has not been any effort on her part to deny.

This development doesn't bother me in the least, though, because I know that gains have been made. Moving into a 24/7 WLM was never something I thought would happen - especially not when the kids were still around. I was also well aware that no matter how far she got on the kinkier side, she would never match me.

But the strides and gains are palpable. She has gotten kinkier. She is more willing to engage in things. The gains won't be lost either. I'd rather her engage in T&D 24/7/365, which will not happen, but I also believe that there will be times in the future it is done by her on her own. I don't believe she'll revert to complete nothing.

So I'll keep pushing and see where it goes. The journey does, indeed, continue.