The url for this blog is "she's a wonderful wife." And it's true - she is. That url refers to her as a person, though. A whole person, not just anything sexual.
It's interesting - we were forced to be apart for about a month. September was pretty much a lost month for us. Without giving away too much, let's just say that the entire month of September, she was on her own, taking care of the kids. Because my job requires that from time to time, I'm supremely grateful and happy that she's such a strong woman that she can handle everything that goes along with those responsibilities. To be able to leave and know everything will be fine is great peace of mind.
It also forced us to "take a break" from anything sexual, let alone kinky. And this break has me re-evaluating the WLM, submission, and even tease & denial, where that is going for both of us, where it is going for her and for me.
She is not "wired" in the kink this way. This is more about her personality overall, rather than anything kinky. Actually, it's both. She's not kinky at heart, but also, the way in which she goes about her day does not lend itself to "planning" anything kinky. Let's put it this way: Kink can be a lot of work! If someone is naturally inclined for that, they usually spend lots of time thinking about it and/or getting ideas from reading websites. She is never going to do either of those things. And since she is not naturally inclined, the thought process of introducing something "kinky" never ever crosses her mind.
I used to think that she considered the options, but just chose not do it. But now I'm more convinced that the thought never crosses her mind, unless I've put it there. I have not brought up denial in a while and the last couple of times that we've engaged in love, there has not been any effort on her part to deny.
This development doesn't bother me in the least, though, because I know that gains have been made. Moving into a 24/7 WLM was never something I thought would happen - especially not when the kids were still around. I was also well aware that no matter how far she got on the kinkier side, she would never match me.
But the strides and gains are palpable. She has gotten kinkier. She is more willing to engage in things. The gains won't be lost either. I'd rather her engage in T&D 24/7/365, which will not happen, but I also believe that there will be times in the future it is done by her on her own. I don't believe she'll revert to complete nothing.
So I'll keep pushing and see where it goes. The journey does, indeed, continue.