I hope everyone had a great holiday break. I sure did, and am not happy to be back in the grind.
All has been quiet on the movement for a more Femdom marriage. It clearly took a back seat to the more pressing events.
I've been reading The Mistress Manual: The Good Girl's Guide to Female Dominance. I purchased it with the thought of giving it to her to read for a variety of reasons. I believe she is not aware of how pervasive the alt lifestyle is in the world. Femdom, BDSM, Chastity, etc., are all areas she probably believes are extremely small. The more exposure she gets to that, the more it becomes "normal." (Please note that I used quotes for normal to convey the idea that the term is not helpful in describing real life. It's a shortcut that provides no meaning.)
I also purchased it to see if there were ways to convey to her a different perspective on the lifestyle, instead of strictly my version.
I thought it might be helpful in providing ideas.
I thought it might be helpful in persuading her into the lifestyle.
Now, I have not finished the book. I have only gone through the first couple of chapters. I find the book interesting to read, but I will not be giving it to me my wife.
The main problem is that the book is extremely focused on teaching a budding Femdom on how to create, plan, structure and enact scenes. It has a section on props, appropriate language, costumes etc. She is extremely against this type of scenario. She has less than zero interest in doing any of those things. She despises props and costumes. She freezes up, fails to function, and looses all sexual excitement when engaging is an acting play like this.
I know that when she sees the chapters, she will immediately dismiss the book and refuse to read it.
It's a shame, because the book does have good chapters on the psychology of Femdom/Submissive relationship, benefits, desires, etc.
Instead, I think I'm going to start a new Game like we did before. She's expressed a desire to do another game. It was brought up by her once, and she hasn't brought it up since, but at least she is the one who brought it up. That does show interest.
I think doing another game will give her an opportunity to experience the pleasures of being a Femdom. Again, more and more exposure to it will hopefully have her craving it more and more.
This is one of my favorite positions. I know she loves it too, though she's expressed before how she feels bad because she feels like she's smothering me. I want to scream "I KNOW AND I LOVE IT!!!" Actually, the one thing about this position that I truly love is that she gets so excited, she forgets about me. Her orgasms are so powerful, that when it hits, she goes completely wild on my face, without any care about my breathing, nose, lips, anything! Divine.