Friday, December 18, 2009

She Has Not Grasped It Yet

So, as you know, she had her party last night. After getting that text from her about the work she had done, I texted back to her that I was happy she was happy etc., but then added the following: "Of course, you could have 'made' me do it, with a little ingenuity :)" I did not receive a response. I got the feeling she didn't really understand what I meant.

Anyway, her party was for only women, so as soon as I got home, I took the kids out for the evening. Upon my return at 10:00 p.m., the party was ending. She actually had to go work right after the party. We talked for a while, then she left for work, stating she be back in about a half hour. When she left, she made a comment that she was happy because she didn't think cleaning up would take too long and that she'd do it when she got home.

Looking at the house, there was a lot of clean up necessary. Champagne and wine glasses everywhere. Open bottles of wine and other drinks. Appetizers and other food. The living room had been re-arranged for purposes of the party.

I had two choices. Go to bed and let her clean it up. Or do it myself. I'm sure everyone knows what I did.

By the time she got home, everything was almost done, except that I was still vacuuming. She was extremely happy - expressed how happy she was that I had done all of this. She even stated that I had gone "above and beyond the duty." She kept telling me how great it was that I done that for her.

Then, this morning, I did two more things. In preparing for her party, she had put the coffee maker away. Before she got up, I found the coffee maker, and made coffee for her. It's not a big thing, of course, but it was knowing what she would like and making that happen. I also wrote a note about how much I loved her and put it with her Iphone.

Needless to say, she was extremely happy and pleased.

Despite this - and all that has happened - the light has not yet switched! Baby steps.

1 comment:

Michael said...

Hi there.
I sympathise with your predicament.
Now might be the time to sit down and write a letter to your partner telling her what you feel and how you would like things to be in the future.
It is not an easy thing to do but it will be worth it it. I took the plunge about 3 years ago and have not regretted it. The first step is the hardest but after that you will get the life that you want.
Michael