So, as you know, she had her party last night. After getting that text from her about the work she had done, I texted back to her that I was happy she was happy etc., but then added the following: "Of course, you could have 'made' me do it, with a little ingenuity :)" I did not receive a response. I got the feeling she didn't really understand what I meant.
Anyway, her party was for only women, so as soon as I got home, I took the kids out for the evening. Upon my return at 10:00 p.m., the party was ending. She actually had to go work right after the party. We talked for a while, then she left for work, stating she be back in about a half hour. When she left, she made a comment that she was happy because she didn't think cleaning up would take too long and that she'd do it when she got home.
Looking at the house, there was a lot of clean up necessary. Champagne and wine glasses everywhere. Open bottles of wine and other drinks. Appetizers and other food. The living room had been re-arranged for purposes of the party.
I had two choices. Go to bed and let her clean it up. Or do it myself. I'm sure everyone knows what I did.
By the time she got home, everything was almost done, except that I was still vacuuming. She was extremely happy - expressed how happy she was that I had done all of this. She even stated that I had gone "above and beyond the duty." She kept telling me how great it was that I done that for her.
Then, this morning, I did two more things. In preparing for her party, she had put the coffee maker away. Before she got up, I found the coffee maker, and made coffee for her. It's not a big thing, of course, but it was knowing what she would like and making that happen. I also wrote a note about how much I loved her and put it with her Iphone.
Needless to say, she was extremely happy and pleased.
Despite this - and all that has happened - the light has not yet switched! Baby steps.