Last night, my wife had to go do something that was unpleasant, but something she had to do. (I'm being intentionally vague so as to protect identities.) Concurrently, she was on track to get her period today, so yesterday she had bad cramps and did not feel well.
Hearing that she was suffering from cramps, on the way home I picked up fresh fruit and dark chocolate and prepared it while she was out. This morning, before I left for work, I made the coffee, made a fruit plate and arranged several pieces of chocolate on a plate and put it by her bedside. She was very pleased this morning!
After thanking me through email, I wrote back "you're welcome. I love doing those things for you. Glad it made you happy. Still looking for additional things to do for you."
Her response was decidedly WLM in my humble opinion. Her response (edited to remove the non-related stuff) was: "...As for thinking of other things to do for me... I really want for you to be able to quit your job and do something else you like. I love that you spend time thinking of me and doing things for me but I'd rather you spend the time at this point focusing on getting a new job. Not forever :-) just for a month or two. My happiness will increase exponentially by seeing you walk out the door and go to a job that makes you happy, so that you can spend more time with me and the family."
If there is no humiliation, demand, or order, how can it be a WLM? I have heard the terms Wife Led Marriage, Loving Female Authority or Female Led Relationship before and they all mean the same thing to me. Reading her answer carefully, it is a combination of all three of those short hand monikers for our relationship.
She's expressing the gratitude, the love, but also telling me what to do to make her happy. It all comes down to "what does she want?" What does she want? She wants the chocolate, she wants the toes painted, she wants those things, but she wants the other things too and is telling me it's going to make her happy. So what am I going to do? I'm not going to stop doing the nails, flowers or any of those things, but I'm also going to focus on the new job angle too.
What is still "funny" to me is that she does not realize that this is a WLM. She doesn't focus on it at all. She just does. She is just who she is. And I love her for it.
There have been a lot of posts that have been non-sexual. It's not to say that we aren't having sex. We are. There has been nothing kinky, no tease and denial, no chastity belts etc. None of those things that I've tried to introduce in the past have stuck and I've stopped suggesting them. Again, what's funny is that twice in the last month, after getting into bed and me bringing her off either one or two times with my tongue and/or fingers, she's said "now I'm too tired to reciprocate" and we've just gone to bed with me not having an orgasm.
In both of those times, I'm 100% convinced she's not doing it on purpose, with a conscious decision to deny me an orgasm. She just felt too tired and wanted to go to bed. So what is that? It's a WLM!!!!!! It's exactly how she wants to be! She wanted to go to bed, so she did. Again, I was perfectly happy to have that happen.
Do I crave more? Yes. Would I have wished for the chastity belt? Would I have wished for more playfulness? More teasing? Absolutely. Am I upset or sad that it did not happen? Nope.