Anyone else notice that their readership has gone down since Google discontinued Google Reader? I know that I have not kept up on reading other people's blogs nearly as much as I used to since it was taken off line. The Google Reader was so great - and now I'm not sure how to find something that is equal.
There hasn't been much to update, though I think we are at a good place now. I don't push or suggest anything. I take whatever she gives, whenever she gives it. I do my own things to try to please her, but I know she doesn't want a relationship where I am her slave or doing everything for her. Whenever I notice that she's busy or stressed I make sure to do something to help her out. That can be anything from the chocolate on the pillow, or doing the errand or something else.
A good example is that recently we were sitting there and she noticed her toes were starting to chip and she said "look how bad my toes are, you're not keeping up on your job." I ended up doing her toes, but here's the thing: had I not offered to do them later on, she would not have mentioned anything about it, nor would she have ordered me to do it. Nor was there any "punishment" for letting them get bad. And here's the other side of that coin - if I were to try to institute a rule where I work on her toes at least once a week, she wouldn't like that either. She would not like the rigidity of the whole thing and more importantly, she would feel that I was doing too much for her, which in turn would make her feel guilty.
So I try my best to do the things I know will make her happy. Would I want a more involved and/or intense WLM? Yep. But since she doesn't desire it, my desire for it is much less than it used to be.