Friday, October 1, 2010

The Slow Dance

There was no full blown discussion about the "why" she did what she did the last time. But we did discuss sex in general. As you will recall, the last event occurred with me pleasing her orally and with hands. The time before that was the same.

While she loves that.......she emphatically expressed that she needs direct intercourse. She's not that big on toys, much preferring me instead of a dildo or vibrator. So, even if were able to engage in full blown chastity, I'm sure it couldn't be a long term chastity, unless there were simply no sexual encounters.

The problem (for me), is that there is an inverse relationship between the number of orgasms I have and the length of time I can hold out during sex. More and frequent orgasms = much longer staying power. Longer chastity = going off very quickly.

It's the "longer chastity = going off very quickly" that is the problem in intercourse. If she's needing/wanting a good session that way, if I've been in chastity, I simply will not last long enough to satisfy her.

And the reason I'm concerned about this is, well, if I ever hope to sell her on the idea of chastity, I want her to be happy and fulfilled too. This presents as stumbling block.

Now, there are definite ways to deal with the issue, so it's not a complete bar. The easiest solution is actually something that I would be completely happy with: it's all her decision. Chastity would be all up to her anyway - meaning she would have authority to determine how long it would last. One week? Two? 6 months? Whatever she wanted. Some might consider my willingness to allow her to decide not a risk at all because I know that she would never pick 6 months. She would not want to go without intercourse for 6 months.

And, of course, I'm getting wayyyyyyyyy ahead of myself because we're not even there yet!

1 comment:

Grey Owl said...

I can empathize with you on where you would like to be, but the need to please her too. In one of my memories, I was 'the gentleman' third for a couple (I haven't written yet about them) but she didn't care about foreplay (I'm guessing her hubby did that over the phone before I arrived) as she was ready and wanting when I arrived. And it wasn't about me, she just wanted me NOW and without delay. No substitutes, no tongue, just cock. An aside from this is her husband was 'too big' and my 'normal' size was more to her liking, so they were pleased with the occasional play.

Now if you can just get to the 'Rule of Three' with male chastity that I wrote about a couple months ago, and you may be on your way...

Enjoy the journey and be patient.