Monday, February 8, 2010

Creampie

Even though we are not currently engaging in anything (let alone Femdom), it doesn't stop me from thinking about things in my down time. I thought I'd give my position on creampies - specifically me eating them.

Creampies, to me, are very complex. Not only my own, personal issues with it, but also the role it has played between my wife and I.

On a personal level, I love the fantasy of it. I do suffer, however, from a very common issue - that is, as soon as I cum, I lose desire to eat her out! It may sound weird, but I've read many other people's thoughts on the issue and the loss of desire is very real and common. Thinking about eating it, wanting to eat it, seeing photos of it, etc., are all very exciting. Then, boom, as soon as the orgasm is done, all desire is gone.

It's odd, and a little frustrating, to have this type of deep desire to do it, but then getting thwarted, by yourself, by your own orgasm!

That's not to say I haven't done it. I have. But that's where more odd complications come in. My experiences with my wife have been sorta scattered.

Some of the times in which I've done it with my wife, I did it completely on my own. Trying to fulfill my own fantasies. Meaning, prior to engaging in sex with her, I made up my own mind that after cumming in her, I'd immediately eat her out to an orgasm. And what I mean by "did it completely on my own" is that I never said anything to her before eating her out. We in the missionary position and when I came, I sorta just laid on her for a little bit. I then went on down and started eating her out. I know that she didn't really realize what I was going to do as I was kissing my way down there. Because once I began doing it, she apparently recognized what was really occurring, because she stated "what are you doing?" She said it in a mixture of shock and surprise, but also of pleasure. She did absolutely nothing to stop me and did have a thundering orgasm. Of course, she never asked me about it later, or discussed what happened.

I've also repeated that same scenario, but she's never even said anything like "What are you doing." She never acknowledged what was happening. I'm not sure if, during those times, she realized what was going on and just didn't say anything about it, or whether she did.

Once, when we were much much younger, I came on her stomach and she told me to lick it off. I'm sad to say that at that time I was less in tune with, and willing to embrace, my submissive side and my initial macho male response was "no." She did not ask me further. I remember thinking at the time that if she told me again, or pressured me further, I would do it, but she left it alone. She never asked me or ordered me to do it again.

I often wonder what would have happened if back then, which was about 15 years ago, had I immediately obeyed her, how different, if at all, our lives would have been.

Very recently, in the last year, she was riding me cowgirl and came. She lay on my chest, and we talked for some time and began kissing me. She did nothing overt and she never said anything, but it was rather clear to me by her actions that she wanted another orgasm. I'm kind of passed the days when I could get hard again within 15 minutes after the initial cum, other than rare occasions. So I rolled her over and ate her to another orgasm.

It's very interesting because she never said a word about it. I don't even know if she realized I had cum inside her when she was riding me cowgirl. I don't know if she did everything on purpose or not. I mean, did she make a conscious decision in her head that "he came in me, but I don't care, I need another orgasm." Did she just not really think and put 2 and 2 together? Did she do it on purpose because it turned her on? She never said a word about it then, or since. I never brought it up to her.

When I first approached her about the Game back in October, I gave to her the list of rules and objectives. Before she agreed to do the Game, she read the entire list, and there were many things that she was reticent to do. I think part of that was the sheer number of things. It was a little too much too fast. Anyway, three of the objectives in extreme included me eating my own cum. She reacted relatively negative to those. She did not seem to want to do those.

I found her immediate negative reaction somewhat curious because, as I have said, we have done that in the past and she even told me to do it at least once.

10 comments:

JamieLin said...

Good stuff.

Loss of desire is annoying isn't it? But just a little pause and moving slow toward your objective just like you described is very effective. Before you know it she'll be moving from that cowgirl position and riding your face!

Have you asked your wife about that demand fifteen years ago? Seems like a natural opening--so long as you're sure it was her.

At all Times said...

AO – an interesting dilemma, and one as you suggest, must be common for many submissive men.

Like you, I was given the opportunity only once, many years ago. I was ordered by Jane to lick her foot clean having orgasmed onto it whilst masturbating. Alas I to failed to respond quickly or obediently enough, and lost the opportunity seemingly forever. I have also wondered what if anything would have changed between us if I had done as requested. I think that to be fair, Jane was in part joking, but part of her wanted to punish me for cuming on her foot like that. I suspect the same was true for your wife, but who knows how differenet she may have reacted seeing you obeying her order.

Your current situation is interesting in that whilst you clearly have done this type of thing, as you say on your own, your wife must know what you are doing, and does not complain. Ask her to tell you to do it, and she refuses. I guess she may just accept you doing it because she thinks that you like it, and she may also enjoy it if she is having an orgasm, but make it about her being dominant, making you do it, and she doesn’t like the idea. I think that for many women they just don’t like to be seen to be cruel or dominant. The more however you do something, the more accustomed and comfortable you become with it.

Anonymous said...

AO & AAT,

Just a thought, but why not try repeating the incidents of years ago, and see what happens? Don't say anything, just manipulate the scene a bit so you cum on her chest, foot, whatever.

Of course, your refusal to eat if that occasion arises will no doubt put an end to further opportunities.

At all Times said...

Thanks for the idea, but I am way ahead of you there. I did, have on a number of occassions, done just that, ecah time hoping that Jane would instruct me to clean up, but she never has. I think that you may only get one chance at this type of thing, or they are just those rare occassions when something is just telling them to do something that mormally they would just not consider.

Another One said...

JamieLin - I have asked her about it. She does not remember it. I'm actually not that surprised. She's not the type to have fantasies, or think about sex too much. She most likely asked on the spur of the moment and it had not lasting effect on her.

AAT - your last paragraph describes it perfectly. She will never complain about getting orgasms! She's multi orgasmic anyway, though sometimes it gets to be "too much" for her.

Anyway, labeling it as "femdom" and putting emphasis on the situation is something that, so far, she does not enjoy or embrace.

Anon - it has definitely crossed my mind recently. I don't necesarily expect that should I cum on her breasts, she would order me to lick it off. It would present a very interesting scenario though if I did cum on her breasts and lick it off on my own.

Hmmmmmmm - that is an interesting scenario because she would, of course, know exactly what was happening and I would be able to see her immediate reaction. Hmmmmmmm.

AdoresHisWife said...

Although I've felt like chickening out, I've never refused. I now really look forward to it. She tells me how much she likes to watch me do it and I get a kick from it. I pretty much drink every bit of cum I ever produce.

Susan's Pet said...

I think that this idea by a submissive husband is endearing. The wife is apparently tentative about the issue. Too bad.

I have been in your position for years. My wife would love to have me "clean up after myself", and she talks of it while we make love, but never follows up on it. I wish that she would.

I believe that truly dominant females would insist, whereas those who do it only to grant your wishes are more lenient.

Kathy's wife said...

It took awhile for Kathy to accept that this was something I wanted to do.

It's now a rule that I always clean up my mess, either with my tongue or a towel, her choice.

Nastysex Man said...

I've eaten my wife's creampie on many occasions. But my technique is a bit different. At night during sex, when I cum inside her I lose the urge to eat her out. However, I know that I WANT TO DO IT, BUT CAN'T. So we sleep, and during THIS period all I think of is "how am I gonna eat her creampie? " I imagine all kinds of sexual fantasies and start touching my own penis. After about an hour or so, I feel really turned on and pull my now asleep wife's underwear down and just dive in. My wife gets annoyed at first for disturbing her sleep, but later is so badly turned on to fuck again.

Nastysex Man said...

My other method would be more helpful to the other men out here struggling with this fantasy.
This one is pretty straight and simple, AND guaranteed to make you eat her creampie. This is what I do on a Friday or Saturday night, as is the weekend and don't have to rush to work. So here it goes...
After I have nasty and passionate sex at night with my wife, we both cuddle and go to sleep. When we wake up lazyily in the morning, the first thing I think of is her cum filled pussy. I'm so turned on that I simply dive right in and clean her out good. We then end up having some amazing morning sex. My wife too prefers me eating her creampie in the mornings as it doesn't disturb her sleep.
I wish I didn't have to work early hours cuz then I would get a nice sleep after some steamy sex and then creampies to eat first during mornings.